Ode to Lynette
Lunch at Panera’s
Belly laughing in our flight seats loud enough to attract eye-rolling glances
Walks by the water
Editing each other’s writings over tea (mine herbal-hers Lipton black)
Night time musings during drive times home
Her enthusiastic teachings on Numerology-her latest passion
Since dear Lynette’s passing on August 9th of this year, I can put these down on paper now, these shared fractal memories; yet I cannot imprint the energy Lynette exuded: her musical laughter, her lilting trademark accent, her embodied compassion and abiding loyalty. I have never heard her complain about anything.
Savoring moments in time as her friend and colleague-I believe the utmost reason her passing left such a hole in my heart, also mirrors the same opinion of her countless clients, her relatives and friends who have been influenced, touched and ultimately changed by being in her company; for to truly know Lynette is to bear witness to personal transformation within yourself.
This magnitude can be summed up in a single word: Presence.
Her grounded, rooted-looking into your soul through your eyes presence she openly bestowed upon everyone, regardless of their imperfections.
For that was her way, fixing your crown without knowing yourself it was crooked, always acting as your constant, your crusader, never criticizing or critiquing-instead offering in her elegant and unencumbered way, gently nudging, slightly nodding and lovingly counseling sound advice for the taking. When she spoke, you were the only person in the room. When she imparted her wisdom, answered a question or validated your opinion-she gave you her entire sphere of attention. You felt appropriate and safe.
As we go on with our business of living-know the best way to honor Lynette is to honor yourself by following the pacts of The 4 Agreements written by Don Miguel Ruiz, a book that meant a great deal to her, and one she offered her final workshop on:
1. Be impeccable With Your Word: Lynette walked her talk. She was careful her words empowered and never made anyone feel small.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally: She always shrugged off negative comments and/or disagreeable people with a laugh and wave-knowing it was always about them anyway.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions: She didn’t scrutinize any hurtful interaction because she knew everyone was fighting their own internal battle and to pass judgment would require to her to have travelled in their shoes.
4. Always Do Your Best: She gave rapt attention to the task at hand and never veered far until it was completed to her high standards.
From the assistance of her friend Reverend Kathleen Boldt, one who is able to decipher her continued wisdom from the other side of the veil, I offer her sage advice on our tendency of relying on our mind alone to surmount our difficulties:
We think our heart can’t handle it, but the only poison is the limits we put on our heart. ~ Lynette Angus